When I was traveling last year, I spent almost two months at a co-living in Normandy, France. There were so many things about this experience that I loved — biking ten minutes down the road to get fresh bread and sweets, walking down the driveway and saying hello to both cows and horses in the fields, living out my historical fiction fantasy of being in an old castle — but my favorite part of the experience was getting to meet so many incredible people.
Luckily enough, one of those people happened to be Alejandra Viejo Lopez de Roda.
Alejandra is an amazing human. She brings so much energy and light to each conversation, while also being someone that you can sit with and discuss the heavier parts of the world. I loved the conversations we had about gender and sexuality, and I also learned a lot from her about being able to show ourselves love while also lifting up other people (especially other women!).
Alejandra has also taught me a lot about passion and resilience: being a woman in the film industry, she’s had to navigate a whole lotta shit in order to do the work that she loves.
I am so inspired by Alejandra and by this conversation, and I’m so grateful to be able to share it with you on here.
We talk about:
how religion impacted her ideas around sex
what sex toys have done to her sex life
what type of sex education she received in Spain
how her experience on beaches in Spain has impacted her idea about bodies and physical affection
how feeling good in our bodies can positively impact our sex lives and why this can be difficult for people who have been socialized as women
how her definition of sex has changed over time
how the way she has been treated in her professional life as a woman in a male-dominated industry has impacted her sex life
releasing self doubt and redefining our body and pleasure - including with masturbation
her thoughts on masturbating while having a partner
what she’s done to let go of the shame and guilt she felt as a result of the messages she received from religion
Meet Alejandra
Alejandra (she/her) is a creative, enthusiastic and passionate traveller with a background in film, photography and visual effects. She grew up by the ocean in Spain while her parents were searching for dinosaur teeth in the depths of the Sahara Desert. She loves riding motorbikes, scuba diving, BJJ and making meaningful connections with other humans. She is constantly trying to find new ways to help unleash her inner voice with as much authenticity as possible.
You can find more about her and her work on Instagram and IMDB.
Thank you so much to Alejandra for sharing her story and her wisdom with us! I hope that this episode helps you feel a little bit less alone in your experience with sexuality and gender.
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In practice with you,
Kelsey
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Episode 07: On Releasing Self Doubt & Expanding Pleasure with Alejandra Viejo Lopez de Roda