Manifesting Your Most Expansive Sexual Self

...a meditation & writing prompts for the new moon in Sagittarius

I love keeping up with the cycles of the moon.

I started getting into it during the early pandemic days, and even though at times I’ve felt a little “woo woo”, it has been a wonderful addition to my life. For me, working with moon cycles gives me a chance to add another layer of reflection to the work that I’m already doing in therapy.

It also helps bring me into ritual and into the sacred, which is something that I felt like I was really missing after I stopped being Catholic.

Whether you are or are not a believer in the idea that the moon cycles and planetary movements actually can influence us, I think that using moon cycles can be a helpful tool to remind ourselves just to take the time to pause, reflect, and offer ourselves some care – including in the realm of our sex lives.

I did a little bit of research on this new moon to craft this meditation, and here’s the quick and delightful:

The new moon in Sagittarius is going to occur on December 12, 2023 at 6:32pm ET.

New moons are said to be times for new beginnings and manifestations, but each new moon is in a different Zodiac sign, so they all have different “flavors” and energies we can work with.

Ruled by Jupiter and the element of fire, this particular new moon has a spicier, more expansive energy. It’s a time to shake things up and to explore, to find some possibility amid our daily routines, our routine mindsets.

The energy is also an invitation to dream big and to ask ourselves: what would happen if we knew that we have the power to create any life that we want? Instead of thinking of all the things that could go wrong, it’s asking us to think about the best that could happen, to understand what that could look like – and then believe in ourselves enough to make it happen.

If you’re interested in learning more general information about this new moon, you might check out this, this, and/or this article.

Using the expansive energy from this new moon, the meditation I’ve created is about envisioning our higher sexual self and our fullest, most vibrant and pleasurable sex lives. It’s allowing us to visualize this person and what this life looks like. No need to go into what might be holding us back from that life — we’ll just be envisioning, allowing ourselves to think about the best that could happen.

About the meditation:

In this meditation I will be guiding you first into some grounding into your body and the present moment, including an invitation to feel into your pelvis and genitals, and then I will be offering a suggestion to visualize your higher sexual self.

Please note: I will also be referencing looking at candle flames and fireplaces and feeling their warmth, their energy, so if that doesn’t feel right to you, this meditation might not be a good fit.

I use invitational language throughout the meditation and incorporate different options. At the heart of it, everything in this meditation is an invitation to curiosity and is completely optional – if any of my suggestions don’t feel right to you, please feel free to think about or visualize anything that would feel more nourishing.

You can do this meditation on the day of the new moon or in the first few days afterwards. If you stumble upon this months later and feel like the topic would be helpful, it will still be available :)

Optional things you might incorporate:

-a candle, a lit fireplace, or even a fireplace on YouTube

-an oracle or tarot card that you’ve pulled around the idea of expansiveness in your sex life (or any other theme that feels right as you go into this meditation)

-a crystal that feels aligned

-anything that you feel like would be supportive (this is your meditation!)

Writing Prompts:

If you enjoy journaling or other forms of writing and want to expand on what we explored in the meditation, I’ve included the questions that I pose in the meditation for further reflection. You could explore in a journal entry style, but you could also write a poem, short story, or essay from the perspective of this higher, more expansive sexual self.

1.     When you imagine your best, most pleasurable sex life, what does it look like?

• What types of activities are you doing? With whom? If you’re not sure, know that there’s no right or wrong – let yourself explore, lean into what thrills you.

• How frequently are you doing these types of things? You might allow yourself to be truly honest with yourself here – it doesn’t need to be every day, or even once a month, just think about what is right for you.

• What is/are the context(s) of these experiences? Where are you? Are these experiences happening more spontaneously? Are they planned? Is it a mixture? What do you need to drop into a sexual or erotic headspace?

• Perhaps most importantly, how do you feel? Happy? Joyful? Ecstatic? Radiant? Are these emotions accompanied by a body sensation, and if so, do they have a home in your body, that is, where might you experience them in your body? If you’re not sure what sensation you might be experiencing, here is a list that might help you explore.

I’m not going to lie, it has felt a bit challenging to be writing about sex and posting a meditation around sexual pleasure when there is so much pain and devastation happening in Palestine and in Israel (and in so many other places where genocide and violence are occurring).

But what I want all of us to have time to reflect on what is happening, to grieve, and to take action in what way feels available to us - and I want us all to be able to take time to care for ourselves, to allow ourselves to feel moments of joy and growth, including in our sex lives.

This is how we survive, this is how we keep going.

Crafting this exploration and doing the meditation myself brought me joy, and I hope you find this meditation and/or the writing prompts helpful in your own self care and exploration journey. Thank you for joining me in this new era of thecuriousclit - I am so grateful for your support <3

In practice with you,

Kelsey